Been feeling a bit blue the past couple days, not entirely sure why but I imagine an element of PMS may be to blame. But hey, wine helps. As does coming clean with the FH (“future husband”).
I think I pretty much have a gut feeling for which DJ seems like the best fit, and the exercise of searching for one has been exemplary of how this process really seems to go – when you see one that makes you go “WOW! Definitely gotta call this one,” it’s probably The One. Whether that means DJ’s, reception sites, dresses, whatever . . . go with your gut. You can even try to apply your Elaborate Screening Process to the candidates, but your gut will keep pointing you to That One. So all we have left to do is meet with the officiant finalists in person and start screening photographers/ videographers. Unfortunately the gut feeling I’m getting about photographers is that the one(s) I really like are Park Avenue caliber that will break our budget. But ya never know. Then I need to get that infernal dress and start talking to florists.
So why the bluedom? We went to a jewelry repair place to have our engagement rings polished & mine resized, and Dennis’s needed to be rebrushed as well (the center between two grooves had a brushed effect; the ousides were plain platinum). His came back ALL brushed, and he hated it — the jeweler couldn’t do anything about it at that point. Dennis didn’t even want to put it back on. I was just devistated — in his opinion his engagement ring was ruined. I kept offering to take it somewhere else and have it redone to the way it was, but instead he kept rationalizing that it wasn’t that bad and that he could learn to live with it.
Just makes me really sad. Also that To Do list is looming over me and for whatever reason I’m feeling a little alone about the whole planning & booking process. I was sort of hoping the FH would be more of a contributor but I have had more trouble prying him away from World of Warcraft lately and I can’t pretend the wedding stuff has nothing to do with it. And I’m sick of the word “overwhelmed.” I want this to be fun!!! I refuse to be stressed out by this wedding planning . . . thing! Immutably I am a tom-boy and wedding planning is typically left up to the chicks, so I am trying to force myself to be as chick-ish as I can possibly muster. While I’m not riding my motorcycle or playing video games. [Sigh] Maybe someone somewhere will tell me what the difference is between “apple”, “cherry”, “strawberry”, “claret”, “scarlet”, and “valentine” for bridesmaids dresses, or why I should care. So I sat Dennis down a couple days ago and very mopily explained how overwhelmed I was, how much I dreaded bugging him with wedding To Do’s, and asked him to please, please help with the photographer search. He agreed in an instant. It just bothers me to load more on his plate because I sense how much he loathes any of this process, but hey, I loathe it just as much. To procrastinate from starting the photographer search we replaced all the bathroom faucets in the entire house this weekend! And if I read in ONE more place “How you both handle the wedding process is an indicator of how you will handle the marriage,” I will scream.
To note, right now he is in a Zul’ Gurub raid in World of Warcraft. I am trying to price wholesale flowers to see if we can save money. But hey, suck it up, Stef! It’s your job! You’re the bride!!
Last address left on the Save the Date Card list, and after one month of asking for it I finally e-mailed them myself.
Finding humor in all of this typically helps of course. One of these wholesale flower distributors’ sites had these funny comments in their FAQ:
“Delays caused by force Majeure (acts of God, flood, tidal wave, bad weather, armed insurrection, Planetary takeover by Venusians/Martians, etc etc) are not necessarily covered.”
Planetary takeover! I love it!!
“How do I know if the person I am marrying is the right one?
On the best advice of legal counsel, friends and relatives, we respectfully decline to touch this one with a very long stick!”
Ha!!! They went there.
Also Dennis said the most Groomzilla thing I’ve ever heard and I had to share it. When talking about the overall schedule of things the subject of wedding party gifts came up. He suggested something he felt strongly about buying for his groom party and I asked, “Hmm, interesting idea. But are you sure everyone would like that?” His response?
“Who cares!? I like it!” Still cracks me up.
I’m also very excited that our friend Deb agreed to go with me gown shopping next month. She also had some fabulous suggestions for bridesmaid dresses so I feel a bit relieved about that. So we’ll make a day or a weekend of it in NY/ NJ or whatever and poke around a bit, and I can take her out to lunch/ dinner/ etc. and we’ll have fun!
Counting down the days until I can go cake tasting . . .